Oh my gosh. In high school I spent sooo much time trying to fit in. Doing what everyone else was doing just so I could be like them. Trying to be a part of the ‘mainstream’. Trying to fit in.
Looking back now I see how much time I wasted. Legit just wasted trying to get everyone to like me. I should have just been myself. But doing that when you’re a kid in high school isn’t always easy. The most important thing in your mind at that age is to make sure everyone likes you, without knowing that some people are going to dislike you no matter what. What a time. What a period in our lives, but we all go through it! That’s why when we grow up we can look back at ourselves & just reflect (& laugh tbh).
Trying to fit in. That’s all I wanted to do, and that’s all a lot of kids want to do tbh. Trying ‘too hard’ when they should be themselves. Easier said than done though, isn’t it?
You know what, I want to start writing more for tweens/teens growing up these days because now it’s harder than ever. That pressure to fit in. To watch the same YouTube channels as everyone else, to be wearing this, be doing that & the list just goes on. The pressure is on for these kids. I mean growing up is hard enough without feeling like an outsider. Like you don’t belong. Like you’re DIFFERENT. And when you’re growing up you don’t realise being different is good. Being different is amazing. It means you’re the only you there is. You’re not someone else, you stand out from the crowd. You’re your own person.
Being different means your unique. And I love that alhamdulillah. Not everyone was meant to fit in. Some people are born to stand out. They may be outcast but that doesn’t matter in the long run. Because we all find our people. The ones that share some of our differences. And everyone has those people.
Hindsight is a funny thing. But then again so is high school. I loved high school overall alhamdulillah because of the memories & the people, but at times I really did hate it, too.
But it’s important to remember being different is actually amazing. Having passions and talents that no one else does, seeing life in a completely different way to others, just being a Q in a world filled with S’s. It’s actually a gift, to be different. To have your own unique ways of doing things, of living, of being. And being different should be celebrated. You don’t have to be the same as everyone else, you don’t have to measure your success by the rate that other people are doing things, because you don’t have to fit in.
You won’t always fit in, and maybe when your grow older, you won’t even want to fit in anymore. You’ll want to be different. To be like no one else. To be someone that no one else ever can be.
And that is yourself.
Until next time,
1 Week Mary x